I know that the name of this post may sound silly to some of you, but this is an actual thing. It often happens that you aren't ready for the beach. It was winter, you said to yourself that you can cover your body with layers of clothes, you ate a bit much of that chocolate cake and bam. It's suddenly summer and it's time to go to the pool and seaside and what's next? You are going to lock yourself in the home so no one can see your body because you gain a little weight. This happened to all of us and instead of telling bad things to yourself and making yourself guilty, just say fuck it! It's time to accept yourself without judgment. Be nice and gentle to yourself. It's time to work with what you've got. Remember this one, you aren't getting that beach body for others than for yourself and your health. It's not good if you are doing it for the others, to prove them something, you'll just end up feeling really bad and sad. It's time to accept yourself and to enjoy the summer. I remember I was scared if I need to go to the beach or pool. I was upsetting that I'm not thin enough and that everyone looks amazing except me. What a bunch of crap, I mean I have 61kg and I'm 176cm and I feel fat, seriously?!
It's so hard to accept that little stomach and fatty hand when everyone around you is "perfect". I know that it's my own fault I didn't work out regularly and I didn't always pay attention to what I'm eating. I decided to be very gentle with myself and to not judge myself when I'm eating sweets or cake, as long as I'm trying to eat healthier. I wanted to share with you few tips on how can you feel more confident when you don't have that beach body, whatever that means.
↠ The first thing would be to find the swimsuit that fits you the best!
For me are the best high waisted swimsuits or the ones that aren't to shallow. I have a little tummy which I need to cover up, I'm guilty as charged. I ate that chocolate a bit more than I should. Sometimes is hard to find the bikini that suits you the best. For me it's like finding the perfect pair of jeans, it can be quite a pain in the ass if you ask me. But, you should never stop finding one. Try the ones that you think it won't fit you, you'll be surprised because sometimes we aren't really aware of how body actually looks. I always perceived myself to be a lot fatter than I am, and I'm not fat at all, I just have a tummy that looks like it's a pregnant one, but I'm not pregnant. :D
↠ If you don't feel too comfortable in a bikini, try wearing it when you are in the house. I know it sounds weird, but you'll just get used to what your body looks like. Do more time you spend in the bikini the more you'll be confident to be in it.
↠ Have fun!
It's not a shame to wear a bikini if you gained a little weight and no one should stress about it. You are there to have fun so relax and enjoy! Read book, swim, dive, just relax and enjoy it with your family and friends! You shouldn't obsess because you gain a few kgs. We are exposed to so many magazines and Instagram's celebrities who have perfect bodies that we get so consumed that we start asking ourselves are we "perfect" enough. There is no perfect body, you are perfectly imperfect, remember that! In the end, you won't remember your holiday at the seaside with how fat you looked in your swimsuit, you'll just remember all of the amazing time you had and things you did so make sure you are present and kind to yourself!
↠ You can always wear coverups when you aren't in the water.
There are so many light and beautiful coverups you can wear when you are at the beach or pool, BUT I highly advice you to don't care and to accept your body and wear that bikini out. You can always go for a swimsuit as well.
I hope that this summer you'll accept your body and you'll rock your bikinis! No one should feel bad about themselves because they aren't what everyone else is expecting them to be (perfect?). I hope you'll be kind to yourself!
Do you have body image issues?
I have all kinds of self image issues. I have scars, stretch marcks, cellulite etc its all part of being human or at least thats what gives me confidence!
ReplyDeleteI like clothing and accessories that are comfy and casual. Your bag is pretty awesome though! It's so unique.
ReplyDeleteAll of your suits are so cute! And you look amazing! It's definitely hard to get past the thought of not being 'beach ready' but once you do it's awfully liberating!!
ReplyDeleteYes, I totally agree with you!
DeleteThank you <3
I do have body issues as well and I am definitely not ready for the beach. But I still go anyway and I don't care what other people think. I've learned that it doesn't matter and most of the times, nobody will actually look at you or comment on how you look because they have their own insecurities.
ReplyDeleteYes, that's actually true, you are the only one who is going to worry and when you realize that, you simply don't care anymore!
DeleteGreat ideas! I really struggled with this after having my two kids so it's nice to see this supportive article. I appreciate this so so much!
ReplyDeleteYou are very welcome!
DeleteFirst, you look great! Second, I completely agree in finding a swimsuit that fits your body and comfort level. Its all about feeling good in what you're wearing!
ReplyDeleteFirst of all I disagree with a statement of yours that some of us might find it silly. Dear, it is a great post. You have written so well. You have a perfect body for swimsuit but unfortunately some of us are not ready for beach.
ReplyDeleteIt is all about what makes you happy. If you are 100 pounds or 400 pounds, you should be able to enjoy yourself at the beach regardless of what other people may think. I am a big girl, and I have a two piece bathing suit that is called a tankini. It covers my tummy so I am not self conscious and I enjoy my time in the water no matter what other people may think.
ReplyDeleteYes, that's true!
DeleteWe should always enjoy ourselves at the beach and we should forget what anyone think about us.
I haven't worn a two piece since I had kids - 16 years. But this year, I decided it was time, and I went ahead and got one. I love it.
ReplyDeleteOh I definitely have this problem. I don't normally go to the beach much or go swimming so I totally forget about maintaining any kind of "beach body"!
ReplyDeleteI just had a conversation about this with the mom of my son's best friend. We are taking our boys to a pool party this weekend and she said she hated seeing herself in a bathing suit. I told her that I understood and we are just going to have to get over it. Don't want our sons missing out on all the fun because we are insecure.
ReplyDeleteOh wow, this definitely inspires me to go out more and enjoy more beach time. I really like that sexy and classy black one but I wish I can carry that as well as you did here.
ReplyDeleteAll the swimsuits look super cool and you look great in each of them.
ReplyDeleteThese are really great tips to help combat a negative body image, especially when its beach time. I think you look absolutely amazing though, I would really love your figure.
ReplyDeleteYou should have no such issues whatsoever! YOu look so fit! Brilliant choice to beach wear. Loved the red one the best.
ReplyDeleteAfter having a baby body confidence is such a struggle for me thank you I needed this post. Your body is amazing.
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You look great! Body image is always tough - we think we do look better in our eyes no matter what weight we actually have, the mythical 5 kilos, hehe
ReplyDeleteFirst off, these pictures are awesome. Secondly I think every normal human can relate to body image issues during summer, having to go to the beach or even to the pool. Only super models would say they find this a strange discourse
ReplyDeleteI remember as a kid there was no worries about how you looked in a bathing suit. You just put it on and went to the beach. Why does it have to be so much harder now. I like your idea of just wearing it around the house first.
ReplyDeleteGreat advice for all of us who might be a little uncomfortable in our swimsuits this summer. Thank you for reminding me to wear my suit around the house before going out.
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